The beginning of any thing is always filled with goals and targets to be fulfilled. Sometimes, it could be a desire to leave or inculcate certain habits in our lives.
As the new roman year 2018 set in, a lot of people set targets and resolutions for themselves.
As we all know, many people will fail to meet their targets or fulfill their resolutions. While many will not bother at all, some will become sad or miserable with their failure. Too bad!
What are the things you need to do if you are not performing well in order not to lose your happiness?
It is very possible that you may not meet your targets or achieve your resolution. When that happens,
1. Recognize what is in your control to change and what isn’t.
There are things that are beyond your control to change. You should allow such things to be without blaming ourselves or others. What we can’t change, we must accept.
2. Sincerely ask for advice and feedback.
When you are not performing well in meeting your target, feel free to ask for help from people who are competent in that field.
3. Include others in your improvement efforts so they can see and appreciate your progress.
When your underperformance is known to others, you can bring people into the efforts to meet your targets. When you do this, we get positive feedbacks that will ginger us to perform better with time.
You must also be mindful that you should not be defensive about your underperformance and try to blame it on outside events or other people. Blaming people leave negative thoughts in your hearts that drains your energy for happiness.
When it seems that the target is unrealizable, easily let go of the target without any sense of regret. Know that you cannot achieve all as you are not privy to all information when you were picking your target or resolution.
Finally, learn to change things you can and build the courage to accept what you cannot change.